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Fears in your life

The distress is real

They are widespread; we all have some. You may not be aware of some of your worries, but some of your behaviors come from fears and may impact your daily life.

Fears like stress are not always wrong; It comes from a primal origin when your ancestors had to hunt and stay safe at any given time.

The body gets ready for the fight-or-flight response, which means you have to decide to fight or flee. It’s part of the human experience; you have to understand the root of your fears to fight against and don’t let them stop you from your daily life.

What are the fears?

Fear is an emotion; it is pre-program to an instinct of potential danger. When you experience concerns, a specific area of your brain gets to activate and control your response to fears.

It can come from a multitude of events or stimuli which are deep inside you. Some fears take their roots since you are a child; you could have been scared of something at this stage of your life. The most common worries as the child are dark, being alone, separation anxiety, ghost, snake.

Although they disappear as we get older, they occasionally stay and develop into phobias, or fears, that interfere in your daily life. Their roots are deep and hard to defeat. They are irrational thoughts and make you believe things that block you from living your life to the fullest.

Your fears are real to you. Your body warns you that something is not right; don’t ignore it. The challenge is to understand where your concerns come from, to change you through, and learn to conquer them. Don’t let the distress in your life stop you from doing what you want.


Where come from fears and distress?

The distress comes from your social environment; you learn them during your childhood, and others come from life experiences and trauma.

Your parents transmit fears to you by sharing fearful thoughts, stories, warnings, and biases with you. However, they are not the only influencers in your lives. Your friends and peers have a significant influence.

When I was a young child, my uncle and my grandpa loved to scarry me with vampires. Before my grandma sent me to bed, they told me stories about how the vampire will come when I am asleep. I was around 4/5 years old, the fears of the dark and falling asleep, was what bring the emotions from the story for a long time.

I have to fight the distress of the darkness for years and confront my fears. It is tough to overcome such fears. They stop you from enjoying or trying new things.


The roots from fears

The origins of your concerns come from different ways. Potential for pain, an unrecognizable event, or loss of control can create distress. It comes from your bad experiences, and the emotions it gave you at that time. The unknow is frighting for many people. The shared experiences and stories you hear and read can create distress and anxiety. Traumatic events bring fears and anxiety.

The types of common fears


The hardest to define distress


  • Procrastination is the fear of success. Many people procrastinate as they are afraid of success. It ‘s easier to pull back and do nothing, instead of doing it.
  • Fear of commitment is the avoidance of long-term partnership or marriage. The notion affects school, work, and home life as well.
  • Rejection is a powerful fear that has an impact on our lives. Many people experience some anxiety when they are in situations that could lead to rejection, but for some people, fear can ruin their life. This fear has many underlying causes.
  •  Decision, making one can be scary as you don’t know before experiencing if i is the right one. Many of you experience the fear of decision, myself included from time as you do not know where it will lead you, fear of the unknown.


The easiest to find worries


  •  Fear of dark comes from your childhood. Many people still have this one.
  •  Being alone, some people are afraid of being apart from someone they cherish. Others fear of living, to be home alone, or to go out in public by themselves.   Childhood adversity and trauma are important risk factors for this fear. It can lead to separation anxiety disorder.
  •  Fear of flying, it comes by the fact when you are on an airplane, you have no control at all. We all heard about a terrible incident, and often, many people, if not all, die.
  •  Height can cause significant anxiety and panic. It develops in response to a traumatic experience involving heights. In some cases, it comes from genetic or your environment.
  •  Fear of talking in front of people. It’s the fear of being embarrassed in front of other people. In some cases, it ‘s the same as the fear of public speaking. For some people, this fear extends to write a check or eat in public. 

How to overcome your fears?

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